As we approach this Father’s day I thought I’d jot down a few thoughts that I’ve had lately about the importance that we put on fatherhood and how we recognize or don’t recognize fathers these days. As I was driving back to work this afternoon from a lunch with my parents, both sets of grandparents and my lovely (and prego) wife and son; I heard a local afternoon radio sports commentator say about Father’s Day, “Well, Happy Father’s day to all you dads out there. I thought I’d say it because nobody else probably will. Let’s admit it, Father’s Day ISN’T Mother’s Day. Don’t expect to be catered to this weekend.” So even though I’m sure that his comment was meant to be tongue and cheek and in good humor the fact of the matter is…. that he’s right. Our society simply doesn’t value the role of the Father in the family unit as much as it used to or as much as it should. I won’t pretend to be an expert on why that is. Could have been because of the absence of fathers during war time in the early 1900s, and women realizing that they could support the family and raise the kids on their own. Could have been due to the “free love” movement or the “women’s lib” movement of the 1960s. Who knows? What I do know is that somewhere along the way Father’s began to be less valued and have less expected of them, and it seems in some sense that some (not all of course) have lived up to those expectations. So let’s get back to the question that is the title of this Post: How Valuable are Fathers? Let’s look at some numbers.
- According to 72.2 % of the U.S. population, Absentee Fathers is the most significant family or social problem facing America.
- An estimated 24.7 million children (36.3%) live absent from their biological father.
- There are almost 17 million children (25%) living with their single mothers.
- 1.25 million or 32% of all births in 1995 were out-of-wedlock.
- About 40% of the children who live in absentee father households haven’t seen their fathers in at least a year while 50% of children who don’t live with their fathers have never stepped foot in their father’s home.
- Children who live absent from their biological fathers, on average, are more likely to be poor, experience educational, health, emotional and psychological problems, be victims of child abuse, and engage in criminal behavior than their peers who live with their married, biological mother and father.
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
- 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (Source: Center for Disease Control)
- 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978.)
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools.)
- 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes (Source: Rainbows for all God`s Children.)
- 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)
- 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)